Catch a Cheating Partner

1. He carries condoms even when you are already on the pill. You are on the pill cos your man is always whining about having to use condoms, so why does he have to carry one in his wallet or briefcase? Is he trying to keep someone from becoming pregnant or avoid catching a disease? For HIM: You find new birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you already have had a vasectomy. You also noticed that the pills were also bought recently.

2. She wants to try new sex positions and techniques. Is she practicing for someone, or with someone?

3. His clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume, and there are lipstick marks on his shirt.. evidence of foreplay?

4. Cheating can be expensive: did you notice more frequent cash withdrawals at ATMs, receipts for expensive restaurants, or unexplained credit card charges?

5. You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back, and it does not look like it could have happened accidentally?

6. He is always busy and works a lot of overtime but it does not show up in the monthly pay. Lately, you have more difficulty getting him while he is at work, and when you speak to him he will say that he is busy but he is unable to tell you about the projects he is working on.

7. He sets up some new free e-mail accounts and doesn’t tell you about it. The cookies and browsing history are always deleted and the recycle bin emptied.

8. She always use the computer late at night, and only when you’re already in bed, or quickly closes the web browser when you suddenly walks into the room.

9. He insisted on keeping the toys and child seat out of his car. Perhaps he is trying to impress the other woman of his availability?

10. She stopped wearing the wedding ring, does not want you to call her in the office anymore, has a new mobile phone number and the bill is sent to her in her office.

11. She goes to the groceries quite often, or picks up the laundry every other day. Chores that usually would not take more than 2 hours in the past now see her coming home six hours later than usual. He seems to hang-out more often and longer with his friends - most of whom you’ve never meet.

12. You noticed the change in the toilet bowl seat position: it is always down but recently it is often up, and you know your women NEVER leave the toilet bowl seat up - the same reason a man NEVER puts it down.

Why Affairs Happen

A research reveals that most women have affairs due to emotional reasons; while men cheat for sex or an ego boost which comes from a new conquest and usually with little emotional connection with the other person. Some couples drift apart in some aspects of their lives, and that can lead them to open the door to someone else. Many affairs begin as a replacement for an emotional void.

Psychologists explained that people often can get too caught up in their personal pursuits, career, or raising children and ends up neglecting their partner. Usually the cheater is desperate to fill a need that is not met by the current partner: which can include emotional understanding, sexual gratification, or some attention.

Conclusion

While some individuals cannot move past the betrayal, others wrestle with the decision to save the relationship. This is particularly the case if the affair is a once-off event (such as a one-night fling that have little or no meaning), as compared to a long and drawn-out affair with strong emotional ties.